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Is it really that hard to handle the truth?

In my 36+ years on this earth I have often found myself in many a situation where I’ve needed to tell someone the truth. Most of those times, the truth didn’t want to be heard. But I had to remind myself that even if they didn’t want to hear it, doesn’t mean that it didn’t need to be said.

We all talk about ‘truth’ as if it is something that we all want in our lives. However, I’ve lost count of the times where I’ve heard of individuals who have fallen out with others on account of hearing the truth about themselves. Or I’ve seen families and relationships break-down because the truth wasn’t owned and handled with care. Speaking from my own experience, the inability by others to handle the truth, seriously impaired me from accepting the truth about my own situation. In my case it led to me constantly making it a priority to put my energy and time into trying to force feed the truth to an energy that wasn’t ready or willing to receive it. This was all in the hope that them accepting their truth would fix what lies had broken. But over time, I learned that only my own truth could set me free. Truth cannot change what does not want to accept change.

It can be hard to handle the truth. In fact it’s so hard, that some people spend their whole lives avoiding it. Some people are willing to lose their families, friends, jobs and reputation, if it means that they don’t need to face their own truth.

One thing I’ve learned is that I should never compromise myself and my own truth for the sake of someone else who is unable to handle theirs.

I am now at the start of my 37th chapter. I find myself reflecting on how many people I have had to leave in the past because they were too afraid to handle the truth.

Some people only accept the truth from certain people. If I’m honest, this concept has always baffled me. The truth is the truth, no matter how it is packaged. You may not be ready to hear it, but it’s going to come regardless, because nothing can stop the truth from revealing itself.

What is hidden in the dark, will be revealed in the light.

I understand that for some, this is not fathomable because it’s easier for them to live in doubt and darkness. It can be much more comfortable in that secret and dark place, because there is nothing to harm the facade that you’ve built around yourself.

Believe me, I’ve been there, I’ve lived a life that wasn’t really my own, tried to fool myself into thinking that something other than my true self was more acceptable.

But acceptable to who? The people who revolve their own lives around fakery? The people who don’t even accept me for who I really am anyway?

The older I get, the more comfortable I become with who I am. I’m not going to lie, some days are difficult, especially when I consider the cost of truth, in that I’ve lost many friends as a result of embracing my truth and rejecting their toxic version of my truth.

But I live in hope that my truth that I am finally learning to embrace will attract an enabling truth that will complement my own. Given that we live in a world which revolves around fake news and filters, I’m not sure how long the wait will be, but I’m hopeful that it will be sooner rather than later. Because if truth be told, I would rather live out my next chapter in partnership with a true kindred spirit than alone.

I am open and honest about who I am, anything else just takes up too much energy. As you get older, you realise just how valuable your energy and time is.

In this age of social media it’s very easy to portray a life that isn’t really yours. If that’s what you choose to do, then good luck to you, I don’t judge, I just pray that one day you will find and embrace your true self.

As for me, I am a single mother of 3 very intelligent and talented children, I am a teacher by trade and finally, a wonderful woman who has needs that are currently not being met. But I have faith that there is someone out there who can handle my truth as well as their own.

I have experienced so much in my short life. I have no regrets so far because every challenge has helped me to become the true version of myself that I am today.

I have changed. I am not who I was. Truth brings change and growth. If you knew me then, you don’t know me now. If you wish to get to know the woman that I am now, you know where I am. In the meantime, I will continue to be the amazing woman of truth that I am as I work towards my future goals and aspirations.

Don’t expect anything but the truth from me, if you want something else then I’m not the one.

You can keep running from the truth but it’ll catch up with you in the end.

‘Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.’ (1 Corinthians 13:6, NIV)

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